tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post4652641797340997186..comments2024-03-23T03:33:32.680-07:00Comments on Shoot the Breeze: Random Thoughts about Marriage (Part 1 of 2)SGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-41082319290778432782018-07-04T04:28:42.350-07:002018-07-04T04:28:42.350-07:00Well except society and social nature, there is Hu...Well except society and social nature, there is Human nature/instinct and it get influenced by the surrounding and the education we get.<br /><br />Still If any by searching for Bride or Groom for Marriage, Can simply register free at <a href="https://www.matrimonialsindia.com/shaadi/tamil-matrimony.htm" rel="nofollow">Tamil Matrimony India<br /></a>, create your profile and post your photo and start searching Tamil Life Partner with easy search options.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07725606588967119686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-72892282079824248752017-02-10T12:11:39.629-08:002017-02-10T12:11:39.629-08:00There is so much variety in India. Yes many north ...There is so much variety in India. Yes many north Indian people have a habit of making close connections instantly if they feel good about meeting people. <br />I knew about marriage between maternal uncle and girl in south India, but I was clueless about cousins. May be in old days it used to give people some sort of security esp for their girl child.<br />I dont know if you know about some villages in north India like that in Haryana or Rajasthan, two people belonging to same village can not marry each other no matter what. If they do, I have read in few news, village authorities either disown them, or kill them for this act! :/Shesha Chaturvedihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14602714942699492851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-71220059549718384692012-10-06T06:40:29.557-07:002012-10-06T06:40:29.557-07:00In andhra pradesh too we can marry one's cousi...In andhra pradesh too we can marry one's cousin, but they should not have the same family name.<br /><br />Though now-a-days we are seeking for matches outside the family.Aparna (Life Takes)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10317107449181119426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-51701924582196303832012-09-10T23:13:06.889-07:002012-09-10T23:13:06.889-07:00I have witnessed this - being a south indian mysel...I have witnessed this - being a south indian myself. Luckily for me my parents did not encourage this but my aunt kept trying till quite many years to convince my dad on this ;)<br /><br />Rushing to read the 2nd part now!Privy Trifleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05317530852098436444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-25214800926768530212010-07-30T04:17:47.753-07:002010-07-30T04:17:47.753-07:00I agree with Kavita. It is true,that such practice...I agree with Kavita. It is true,that such practices might be shocking to some people who have never heard it, but that doesn't make it wrong or right for that matter.<br />I think it was more for sake of the girl being married to a known person than the money issue.<br />Personally I don't subscribe to such relationship, though my own parents and many of our relatives have been married in that way. Some knowing that such a relationship is possible have even fallen in love, and married cousins / uncles so on. And the people I know have all good healthy children and are quite happy together.<br />In every tamil movie you would find a story with a girl having her 'Murai Mama'. Though I can't stand such things I don't look down upon people for choosing to follow such customs.<br />However, fortunately these days you find very few takers for this type of marriage.Rama Ananthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962222316822524699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-46258804402225682632010-07-30T04:17:42.096-07:002010-07-30T04:17:42.096-07:00I agree with Kavita. It is true,that such practice...I agree with Kavita. It is true,that such practices might be shocking to some people who have never heard it, but that doesn't make it wrong or right for that matter.<br />I think it was more for sake of the girl being married to a known person than the money issue.<br />Personally I don't subscribe to such relationship, though my own parents and many of our relatives have been married in that way. Some knowing that such a relationship is possible have even fallen in love, and married cousins / uncles so on. And the people I know have all good healthy children and are quite happy together.<br />In every tamil movie you would find a story with a girl having her 'Murai Mama'. Though I can't stand such things I don't look down upon people for choosing to follow such customs.<br />However, fortunately these days you find very few takers for this type of marriage.Rama Ananthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962222316822524699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-23981666923205018082009-10-20T04:23:49.097-07:002009-10-20T04:23:49.097-07:00I knew about this custom of marriage between cousi...I knew about this custom of marriage between cousins in South,but have always respected it because my patents were very particular about us to be open minded and respectful to all the cultures and customs....it was ok if few of our friend ate beef OR few never touched garlic or even onion.Growing up with this mind set helped me a lot throughout my life.<br /> SG...i liked reading this post thanks to the person who commented about it in your Japan post....now off to part 2.Kavita Sahariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11342095914702911870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-38533689852804837742009-09-17T12:20:47.763-07:002009-09-17T12:20:47.763-07:00"In Tamilnadu, it is legal to marry certain r..."In Tamilnadu, it is legal to marry certain relatives. For example, I can marry:<br /><br />My sister’s daughter. My father’s sister’s daughter. My mother’s brother’s daughter."<br /><br />thanks for the info.. dont worry am not gonna take advantage of it.. scientifically speakin it doesnt promote evolution of the species..<br /><br />n regardin the anecdote.. i still didnt understand.. i get confused with so much relatives.. i play the safe game by callin them either mama or mami..Vishnuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12141416605589369199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-67271207847095328242009-09-16T14:14:11.354-07:002009-09-16T14:14:11.354-07:00Thanks for your comments. My friend did not speak...Thanks for your comments. My friend did not speak to me for a month.<br /><br />Part 2 will be posted Thursday morning (India time). Since you live in California, you can read it this evening.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-47105934262114087912009-09-16T13:57:52.841-07:002009-09-16T13:57:52.841-07:00Interesting post! Like your friend i too got reall...Interesting post! Like your friend i too got really shocked when i came to know that marrying in your extended family is totally acceptable in south India.<br /> Well, Post was pretty informative, waiting for the part-2!Shadee001@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10022137085734674998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-21555892306564345612009-09-16T11:05:28.562-07:002009-09-16T11:05:28.562-07:00Thanks for your comments Rahul. And, welcome to my...Thanks for your comments Rahul. And, welcome to my blog. As you said, it takes understanding and commitment to make a successful marriage.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-9572305494150981022009-09-16T10:39:12.263-07:002009-09-16T10:39:12.263-07:00you aptly put the culture disparity that involves ...you aptly put the culture disparity that involves in the idea of marrying blood relatives and also in procedures followed that makes a marriage. consanguineous marriages are a quite a phenomenon in southern part of India while its a cultural shock to one who don't have roots there. Perhaps,ignorance isn't a bliss, any longer. <br /> I somehow believe it takes understanding & commitment among other things for a marriage happen than the endless customs. wat say?<br /> thanks for en lighting me on the diversity,I look forward to sequel to this one..Rahulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07305556412636139534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-49873596615443338252009-09-16T08:41:04.757-07:002009-09-16T08:41:04.757-07:00Thanks for your comments HaRy. The second part wi...Thanks for your comments HaRy. The second part will be posted on Thursday morning (India time).SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-47793812683469393722009-09-16T08:29:56.730-07:002009-09-16T08:29:56.730-07:00oo yu shud have completed the post! i certainly d...oo yu shud have completed the post! i certainly dont understand the marriage concept and it all looks bleak when compared to here the way its outlook has changed! hmm might be wrong, but marriage itself has lost its sacredness these days...and tamil marriage...ho boy dont get me started on this! ! i still do see marriage between cousins in my family !hmm nice post...keep the good work and lemme know when yu come up with the next part :)<br /><a href="http://ribtickle.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"><br />HaRy </a>HaRy!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/09765617515915812683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-74921581503087401892009-09-16T08:29:50.175-07:002009-09-16T08:29:50.175-07:00oo yu shud have completed the post! i certainly d...oo yu shud have completed the post! i certainly dont understand the marriage concept and it all looks bleak when compared to here the way its outlook has changed! hmm might be wrong, but marriage itself has lost its sacredness these days...and tamil marriage...ho boy dont get me started on this! ! i still do see marriage between cousins in my family !hmm nice post...keep the good work and lemme know when yu come up with the next part :)<br /><a href="http://ribtickle.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow"><br />HaRy </a>HaRy!!https://www.blogger.com/profile/09765617515915812683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-47440462120616226312009-09-15T12:53:11.039-07:002009-09-15T12:53:11.039-07:00Thanks for your comments Numerounity. Part 2 will...Thanks for your comments Numerounity. Part 2 will be posted Thursday morning (India time).SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-35628516919479332512009-09-15T12:02:49.722-07:002009-09-15T12:02:49.722-07:00Nice anecdotes. When is part 2 coming? :)Nice anecdotes. When is part 2 coming? :)ekta khetanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13253258697971928171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-24987650151170050942009-09-15T11:46:34.144-07:002009-09-15T11:46:34.144-07:00Thanks for your comments Aparna. I second each an...Thanks for your comments Aparna. I second each and every word you wrote.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-81243361698544265512009-09-15T11:19:36.281-07:002009-09-15T11:19:36.281-07:00I am from Bengal and marrying one's cousin is ...I am from Bengal and marrying one's cousin is a taboo there. The Bengalis are otherwise pretty liberal about marriages to other communities. In recent years, all my cousins have got married to non-bengalis. I think the whole of India and (not just the South) is changing when it comes to marriages. I personally think there should be more and more inter community marriages, they definitely bridge the difference.Aparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05527786215758008556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-87374669647373580882009-09-15T06:11:03.852-07:002009-09-15T06:11:03.852-07:00Thanks for your comments Meira. And, welcome back...Thanks for your comments Meira. And, welcome back.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-49730255781355475682009-09-15T06:10:05.096-07:002009-09-15T06:10:05.096-07:00Thanks for your comments Varsha. Actually, your p...Thanks for your comments Varsha. Actually, your posting prompted me to write this one.<br /><br />In the olden days, married males were wearing (metti) toe rings. Gradually, that tradition stopped.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-63551621036920353322009-09-15T06:02:10.982-07:002009-09-15T06:02:10.982-07:00Thanks for your comments Radha. And, welcome to m...Thanks for your comments Radha. And, welcome to my blog.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-37542686459736631772009-09-15T05:59:58.637-07:002009-09-15T05:59:58.637-07:00Thanks for your comments JD. And, welcome back. I...Thanks for your comments JD. And, welcome back. In Tamilnadu, they don't call this type of cousins as brothers or sisters even when they are very young.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-64664604441669048362009-09-15T05:52:37.915-07:002009-09-15T05:52:37.915-07:00I second Varsha. Though the family I married into ...I second Varsha. Though the family I married into makes the guy wear a janayu too. That makes me feel better :DMeirahttp://happyhoursbeginhere.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-91726534868244522682009-09-15T03:37:03.865-07:002009-09-15T03:37:03.865-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Varsha Shrotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11526328636637682997noreply@blogger.com