tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post6097476603354819822..comments2024-03-23T03:33:32.680-07:00Comments on Shoot the Breeze: AththaanSGhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-49222439215519867672018-05-02T15:44:53.612-07:002018-05-02T15:44:53.612-07:00Even previous generations in my family had some cl...Even previous generations in my family had some close relatives marrying each other, but genetically it's not a great idea. I didn't know about this word. Don't think we have an equivalent work in kannada.Avada Kedavrahttp://bookishmuggle.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-61859873665286667562018-04-30T02:05:18.855-07:002018-04-30T02:05:18.855-07:00In Kerala also among Hindus and Muslims brother...In Kerala also among Hindus and Muslims brother's and sister's children marry each other and now also. Wives address their spouses chettan in most cases and of late by name only.rudraprayagahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13775039913655864157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-28016786466656011932018-04-19T07:05:14.995-07:002018-04-19T07:05:14.995-07:00Thanks for your comments Pradeeep. Very good anec...Thanks for your comments Pradeeep. Very good anecdote. SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-45822095464565851272018-04-18T23:50:55.269-07:002018-04-18T23:50:55.269-07:00I wasn't aware of this Tamil word, and its sig...I wasn't aware of this Tamil word, and its significance.<br /><br />In Kerala, it is very common for a woman to call her husband "chettan", which means brother. That way, it's "worse" than "Aththaan"! Also, there are women, who don't, saying, "How can my husband ever be my brother?!"<br /> <br />When my wife and I visited Kerala for the first time, after our wedding (which was in Bhopal), we were at her uncle's house. There my wife's aunt heard my wife call me by my name. That virtually scandalised her aunt, who gave her a piece of her mind, saying she should never call her husband by his name, instead, she should always call him "chettan".<br /><br />Her aunt's advice only in turn scandalised my wife, and she has always called me only by my name! <br /><br />Let's be fair ... I think it must be left to the couple to call each other whatever they want!Pradeep Nairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873369124947878452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-70128012805859746842018-04-18T10:15:24.248-07:002018-04-18T10:15:24.248-07:00Hahahaha yes for some of us it is a shock probably...Hahahaha yes for some of us it is a shock probably because we consider cousins as we consider our siblings and feel the same way about them. For marriage one has sort of different feelings for the spouse. Even I felt weird after hearing it for the first time. And for a long time I couldn't accept the fact that girls do get married to their maternal uncle as well in one of the cultures. But that was long back when I was in first year of my college. You should add this incidence to your main blog. Your friend is interesting :))Shesha Chaturvedihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14602714942699492851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-8249008636310893782018-04-17T20:17:02.741-07:002018-04-17T20:17:02.741-07:00Thanks for your comments Rajesh. I am glad you me...Thanks for your comments Rajesh. I am glad you mentioned the word "mama". Some Tamil speaking girls address their husbands as "mama" whether he is related prior to marriage or not.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-2123991638162069252018-04-17T20:13:11.850-07:002018-04-17T20:13:11.850-07:00Thanks for your comments Shesha. After finishing m...Thanks for your comments Shesha. After finishing my college in Chennai, but before coming to USA, I was in Delhi for a while. (Remember roti byto?) At that time I told my Punjabi friend I may end up marrying my cousin. He got so mad that he stopped talking to me for 3 months. To his delight, I married an outsider and not my cousin.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-20677234092468899002018-04-17T20:07:47.169-07:002018-04-17T20:07:47.169-07:00Thanks for your comments. Too bad, your aththaan ...Thanks for your comments. Too bad, your aththaan is the unlucky guy for not marrying you.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-25640263312308197172018-04-17T20:06:08.894-07:002018-04-17T20:06:08.894-07:00Thanks for your comments Mr. KP. Yes, people are ...Thanks for your comments Mr. KP. Yes, people are realizing how unhealthy it is.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-46360367526848838132018-04-17T18:43:26.721-07:002018-04-17T18:43:26.721-07:00In-family marriages perhaps made sense in those da...In-family marriages perhaps made sense in those days as they wanted to keep the property within their families. That is indeed a beautiful word and another word that has similar connotations is 'Mama'. I have always wondered how, with that age difference, they managed to get a girl married to her uncle (Mother's brother). But it makes a lot of sense, esp. for the girl's mother, if you analyze it closely. <br /><br />Destination Infinity <br /><br />Destination InfinityDestination Infinityhttp://www.destinationinfinity.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-45286879178664568282018-04-17T16:30:10.930-07:002018-04-17T16:30:10.930-07:00I have heard about marriages between relatives in ...I have heard about marriages between relatives in South India and in Muslims. However after reading comments I learned it also happens in Parsis and in Karnataka. Informative post :) Shesha Chaturvedihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14602714942699492851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-41291480145507260642018-04-17T10:41:56.903-07:002018-04-17T10:41:56.903-07:00Hahahah....I have way too many such relationships ...Hahahah....I have way too many such relationships in my family where my cousin is married to their Mama (less age difference) so now they are my Mami and cousin....very confusing.....I almost came close to such an alliance with my Mama's son, but thankfully.... saved......Good One SG.....Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09382026076805025777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-51817797158091451262018-04-17T10:33:46.096-07:002018-04-17T10:33:46.096-07:00Atthaan is dad’s sister’s son while ammaanji is mo...Atthaan is dad’s sister’s son while ammaanji is mom’s brother’s son. These days there is awareness of the risks in consanguineous marriages and such marriages have become very less.<br />Film world is still to come out of it.KParthasarathihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02189924874350906456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-31259241175228650422018-04-17T09:17:51.146-07:002018-04-17T09:17:51.146-07:00Thanks for your comments Shilpa.Thanks for your comments Shilpa.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-10383502473456494642018-04-17T09:16:57.296-07:002018-04-17T09:16:57.296-07:00Thanks for your comments Sindhu.Thanks for your comments Sindhu.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-86328560779290731012018-04-17T00:35:32.571-07:002018-04-17T00:35:32.571-07:00This made for an interesting read. I have seen mar...This made for an interesting read. I have seen marriages within families in Muslims and Parsis, but wasnt aware that it happens in TN and as Sindhu mentioned, in Karnataka too.Shilpa Garghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11016927627801620377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-81271726021708090902018-04-16T23:25:56.116-07:002018-04-16T23:25:56.116-07:00*for*forSindhu Devi Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837319989457099569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6636808797927234183.post-70149352167033275922018-04-16T23:25:28.094-07:002018-04-16T23:25:28.094-07:00Wow! There is so much connected to a single word! ...Wow! There is so much connected to a single word! Very interesting read. Marriages taking place between sodara (term fir such marriages in Mangaluru) relationships is not uncommon to Karnataka even. Sindhu Devi Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837319989457099569noreply@blogger.com