This happened a few years ago. I was working late in my office one evening.
Knock Knock.
One of the female employees, Lorraine, working for me was outside my office. I asked her to come in and sit down.
I asked Lorraine what she wanted to discuss with me. She said “I think you know I am getting married next week. I also sent you the invitation.” I acknowledged receiving the invitation and said my wife and I will be there.
Lorraine said she wanted me to do her a big favor/help.
I asked her if she is short of money and I will loan her some money. Or, if she wants extra days off to go on honeymoon, I will consider giving her extra days off.
She said she did not want any of them. After I asked her 3 times what she wants, she asked me if I can give her away during the wedding.
Just an example, This is not me or Lorraine.
A father walking his daughter down the aisle and giving her away to the groom is a well-accepted and sometimes touching part of the ceremony. If the bride has no father or father has refused, then a brother or uncle will take his place.
I asked her what happened to her father or brother or uncle. She said they all refused because this is her third marriage. And, she started to cry. I said I will think about it and let her know the next day.
I called Lorraine into my office the next day and told her I would give her away, but with one condition. I told her this should be her last marriage. No more marriages for her. She accepted. (As far as I know, she is still married to that guy.)
On the day of wedding, I asked my wife if she is coming. Originally, she was planning to come. When she came to know I am going to give away the bride, my wife decided not to come to the wedding.
My wife said: Go ahead and give your sister away. Enjoy the free food and drinks.
That is what I did.
Couple of things SG....
ReplyDeleteYou telling you will give only if this will be her last marriage is kinda weird cause no one can promise you that .....
Secondly....why didn't Your wife come after initially deciding she was coming ....was she not Happy with your decision?
Thanks for your comments Dee. That is my condition for giving her away. If she is not agreeable, she can find someone else to give her away. I did not compel that I want to give her away. Accept my condition or find someone else. My wife was not happy with my decision. Therefore, she decided not to come.
DeleteYou got a life time opportunity and used it with a good condition. I am glad she is still keeping her word up
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Gowri. She kept her word and still married to her third husband.
DeleteIs this something that truly happened or a fictional story?
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Coach. Real story. I don't know how to write a fiction.
DeleteA good Samaritan you are as I expected midway of the post.
ReplyDeleteBut why did you have to stipulate a condition?
Thanks for your comments Mr. KP. I stipulated that condition because I did not want her to divorce again and go for another marriage. She was at liberty to accept my condition or go find someone else to give her away.
DeleteInteresting event. How nice of you to do that.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Anonymous.
Deletethird marriage.......she is trying her best to fit it somewhere (but still remaining married to the previous one could cause legal problems)
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Haddock. I am sorry I was not clear. She divorced twice and this was her 3rd marriage. Still married to thr 3rd guy.
DeleteHopping over from your visit to my blog. Thank you!
ReplyDeleteSigh, relationships can be so tricky! I hope she's doing well, and at peace.
Cheers,
Deepa from FictionPies
Thanks for your comments Deepa. And, welcome to my blog. Yes, she is doing well and still married to that guy.
DeleteDeepa, please come here as often as possible. Thanks.
That is really sweet of you. However, if she is not happy in the marriage and wishes to step away, she should be allowed to now. Be it the third marriage or the thirthieth
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Pooja. I did not say she should not divorce if she is not happy in this marriage also. I said not another marriage.
DeleteAha! A commendable job. A philanthropist. Nice write-up.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Sarala.
DeleteYou seem to have managed a difficult situation very well. :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments Pradeep.
DeleteSo touching. Great that she followed your wish!
ReplyDeleteSuch an honour to be considered for the role that is traditionally done by- "father of the bride".
Did you consult with your wife before accepting offer in the first place?
Did she give any reason why she didn't attend the ceremony?
Nice that you had her consent to give away your sister.
Thanks for your comments Anita. Yes, I did consult with my wife. She did not agree because she was of the opinion that I should give away my own daughter when the time comes and not any stranger. She did not want to attend the ceremony because she did not wish to see me giving away a stranger.
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