Thursday, November 25, 2010

I Won (again)

All of you may remember that I entered a contest by writing a post titled “By the Water Cooler” and I was declared one of the 5 winners. I wrote another post, I Won, announcing that winning. The story did not end here. Many of you may not be aware of further developments. Here it is.

Another blogger, YaadaYaada, claimed that a golu picture shown in one of my previous posts belongs to her. I took that picture from my wife’s golu picture collections. Therefore, I thought it was ours. I then checked with my wife and she said it is not ours. I immediately apologized to YaadaYaada and removed that post. YaadaYaada graciously accepted my apology and said: No Problem. I thought that was the end of the matter.

Ms. Parul Sharma, who organized the “By the Water Cooler” contest, and who is in no way connected with the YaadaYaada blog incident, decided to take it upon herself to punish me and teach me a lesson. In other words, she appointed herself as the Judge, Jury and the Executioner. She wrote a post and announced that she is removing my name as one of the five winners.

Ms. Parul Sharma may have thought that she was doing the right thing. But we also have to think if that is legal or not or acceptable in a civilized society. There are some people in this world think that “honor killing” is the right thing to do. Do we agree with that?

I could not believe what she did. She laid down the contest rules. I complied with all the rules. And then she declared me as a winner. What happened in another post with another blogger is none of her concern. I would have let the whole thing go if she had not insulted my integrity. Not only that. She questioned my sincerity when I apologized to YaadaYaada for an honest mistake.

Then I remembered an idiom made famous by Late Robert Kennedy. “Don’t get mad. Get even.”

I contacted a very capable lawyer in Mumbai. Explained her the whole situation as I saw. She agreed to represent me and sent a legal notice to Ms. Parul Sharma, requiring her to reinstate me as one of the five original winners. And, she got the message. On November 21, Ms. Sharma wrote another post, A very important announcement, declaring me as a winner (again).

Ms. Parul Sharma wrote in her post the following:

“SG, you are hereby reinstated as the winner of my contest. Please let me have your address in the next two days so that the book can be sent to you failing which I will send it to your lawyer”

I wrote a comment that I do not wish to receive her book.

I am sure she is not happy with this episode. But who cares?

I wish Ms. Parul Sharma success in winning The Man Booker Prize. The Booker Prize Foundation, its advisory committee, and the panel of judges will not change the “rules” after they announce the winner.

As Paul Harvey (Radio broadcaster for the ABC Radio Networks) would always say “And now you know…the rest of the story”.

I want to thank all those who supported me on this.

54 comments:

  1. I am surprised at her behaviour,but the best part is you prsued, because I always think that tolerating is as bad as doing a wrong thing.

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  2. Thanks for your comments Renu. I appreciate your support.

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  3. I'm glad it was resolved between you and yaadayaada. That's what matters :)

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  4. It was an unfortunate incident. But it turned in your favor. Congrats again

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  5. Thanks for your comments Shruthi. YaadaYaada was gracious and magnanimous.

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  6. Thanks for your comments Insignia. Yes, it could have been avoided. I am glad it turned out in my favor.

    Ms. B, thanks for your unwavering support.

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  7. Thanks for your comments Neha. SG thanks you for your unwavering support.

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  8. SG,
    I am back , after a break. I have not read your earlier posts but I could gather that you have WON.Good for you.
    As I opened your website to read your post "I won", my calling bell rang and I received a packet containing two books 'won' by my son for a quiz conducted by Derek o Brien. shall I say your post proved lucky to me.

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  9. Thanks for your comments Chitra. I and other readers missed you and your comments. Where have you been? I am glad my post proved lucky to you. Please convey my congratulations to your son.

    Please read the old “I Won” post and this post “I Won (again)” and give your honest opinion. Thanks Chitra.

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  10. I suppose all's well that ends well and at least things were resolved but what an awful situation to go through. My congrtulations again.

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  11. I am here to give my opinion again . I had read your earlier post also and was so happy about that you had WON.Never knew there would be a sequel again.

    I was really surprised when your name was removed from winning list when you have not violated any rules regarding the contest. There are very few people who don't compromise on their integrity . I am v.happy, I have a friend who maintains high levels of integrity and goals and stands firm in sticking to his stand.

    I was travelling SG, had some personal work and was attending social functions.I too missed all my friends.

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  12. Congratulations, SG! What you did is the right thing!

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  13. SG,

    I am your friend and go long way with you. I will take the liberty to ask a question.

    Was involving a lawyer for a blog really worth? Is this really a victory?

    I am really confused. What am I missing here?

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  14. Thanks for your comments Tracy. Finally, I am glad it came to an end.

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  15. @SG,

    I never bothered to read her initial announcement because I know you and trust what you say. I never read her reversing the decision.

    Unfortunately I read her post (link from this post) 'reversing the reversing'....

    Honestly reading as a third party, I don't think it is worth..the way I read her post...she is essentially blaming you and making you look bad.

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  16. Thanks for your comments Chitra. Thanks for your valuable support.

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  17. Thanks for your comments Sandhya. Thanks for your support.

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  18. Thanks for your comments A.

    When I put the title “I Won (again)”, I did not mean victory against the contest organizer. I meant I won the contest and I was declared a winner again.

    As I wrote in the post, I would have let it go if she simply removed my name from the winner list and announced it. But she questioned my sincerity. That made me a little angry.

    Was involving a lawyer for a blog really worth? It is an individual’s opinion. By organizing a contest, me entering in that contest, and the organizer declaring me a winner means the contest organizer and me have entered into a legal contract. I complied with all the contest rules and removing my name is a breach of contract. Questioning my sincerity amounts to defaming me. Therefore, I had to go to a lawyer.

    You want to discuss further, you know my email address.

    I have just put in comment moderation. I will allow all differing opinions. But if someone comments to me in “hate language” with indecent/uncivilized words, I do not want that in my post.

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  19. congrats.
    great job.

    this world think that “honor killing” is the right thing to do. Do we agree with that

    Let me clarify
    what few Indians think is not important.
    Honor killing is illegal in India and our Indian courts have punished such criminals , head of Khaps also this is one of reason they are angree and afraid .

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  20. @SG,

    Please keep in mind her key objective. She may or may not care about bloggers like us. Don't you think 'contest' is really to promote her book? Of course we readers like to encourage writers and play this game. This reversing the decision may be another of those gimmicks...who knows..I look at all these thing with grain of salt. (as you can see from posts).

    I would strong suggest not to spend your energy and creativity on this. Last message from me on this subject. Bye :)

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  21. My goodness, SG, remind me never to get on your bad side!

    I can certainly see where your frustration came from: not from losing the prize but from having your honour insulted. Although had it been me, I would likely have contented myself with writing a very nasty blog post about the woman. Still, to each his own!

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  22. I really dont know what to say.But am glad everything worked out in the end.

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  23. congrats once again. loved the way u handled it. She should have just stuck to the rules of the contest. what happened b/w u and another blogger was not a concern of hers.

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  24. dear SG,

    Congratulations...I am glad you fought for your rights...not many would do that...but as the old saying goes, "Only crying babies get milk" ...

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  25. Thanks for your comments A. She made me look bad? I don't know who she is. People should accept responsibility when they make a mistake.

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  26. Definitely a horrifying experience @SG!

    Thank you for sharing it with us - a lessons learnt from many different angles...

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  27. I'm sorry about all these developments and that you had to go to a lawyer to set matters right.

    I guess many bloggers take images from the internet - and no one bothers. But in your case it had to happen like that.

    The thing to do is to write below the image "See Image Source" and link it to the original page. Most people don't mind this because it actually places their website's link on this blog and gives them advertisement. But of course, in your case you didn't know it was from another site.

    But you were reinstated that's good.

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  28. oye! m m surprised, parul sharma must be a fan of rakhi sawant thats why usne apni adaalat laga li! lol!!

    u did the right thing!

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  29. Thanks for your comments SM. Nice information.

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  30. Thanks for your comments A. I am a simple person thinking in simple terms. As you said, it may be a gimmick. Will sure take your advice.

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  31. Thanks for your comments Emily. Thanks for understanding my frustration. Never get on my bad side? Please Emily please. I am a nice guy.

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  32. Thanks for your comments Bedazzled. Yes, everything worked out in the end.

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  33. Thanks for your comments Bhagyareema. Yes, if the contest rules were followed things would not have dragged like this.

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  34. Thanks for your comments Aparna. I would have let it go if the contest organizer had not questioned my sincerity.

    Aparna, once again thank you so much for your unwavering support.

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  35. Thanks for your comments NRIGirl. You are correct. Lessons learnt from many different angles.

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  36. Thanks for your comments Archana. It was an honest mistake. As soon as I knew, I deleted that post and apologized to the owner of that pic. She was very gracious in accepting my apology.

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  37. Thanks for your comments AS. I am glad you think I did the right thing.

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  38. My God SG..such a stupid woman ya...you just dont deserve this :) but anyways he world is full of useless people..i am glad we ahve people like you :)

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  39. Thanks Sulagna. Thanks for your support. Welcome back. Long time no see. Where have you been Sulagna?

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  40. Thanks for your lovely comment.
    Heartiest congratulations to you. Though it was an awful situation but you have come across through it and now everything is fine thats really good.

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  41. Thanks for your comments Babli. You are right. It was an awful situation. But not created by me.

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  42. Looks like controversy actually boosted ur blog rank. I guess something good always happens in the end. Say thanks to Parul for that :)

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  43. Whatever the reasons for removing your name once it was announced. It was not the right thing to do. Glad you fought your stand.

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  44. Thanks for your comments Anonymous. I have the same readership. It neither went up nor went down. Actually, she should be thanking me. This incident has given her book a lot of publicity.

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  45. Thanks for your comments Radha. You exactly echo my thoughts.

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  46. Congratulations SG. A well deserved win.

    You know I made the unfortunate mistake of visiting Parul Sharma’s blog.
    All I have to say is – yawn.
    Her blog is more boring than listening to a 15 minute speech on pencil erasers.

    I saw where she shivers and said that you are the winner again.
    She shivers like it’s a joke…but in the end if she didn’t take you seriously she wouldn’t have posted it so she can shiver all she wants.
    Pa-RULE Changer Sharma made a HUGE mistake thinking that people who blog are just nameless, faceless people sitting behind a keyboard.
    Parul Shivers got served legally and the long arm of SG is dangerous if he can get to you in REAL LIFE and not just in the BLOG world.
    A dangerous person you are - one not to be trifled with.

    Oh by the way – when I posted on her blog…she deleted my posts and called me a troll.
    Thanks for nothing.
    Hmmm, I wonder what the Booker Award committee will think when they hear that Parul Shivers Sharma is surrounded by controversy and has a dark legal cloud over her head. She brought this upon herself. Just another self centered, egotistical, idiot.

    And if you think that she is bad…the imbecile cronies on her blog are even worse.

    Maddy aka Teju aka The Mad Hatter
    Roop Rai aka Poop Rai
    GettingThereNOW aka Getting Nowhere Always

    These 3 people need a double promotion to get up to a level classified as idiots.

    The Cagey Bee
    *I’m The Cagey Bee and I approve this message*

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  47. Good to know yaadayaada took it in good spirits.

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  48. I cant believe this .... really bunch of jokers you and your followers..honestly.....

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  49. Thanks for your comments The Cagey Bee. Where have you been? I was thinking you would be the first one to comment here.

    Thanks for your unwavering support. Want to point out a small correction. I am not a dangerous person. I am a nice person. Sometimes, I am naïve also. You are not a troll. This kind of name calling is usually made by those who do not want to listen to anyone who has a different opinion.

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  50. Thanks for your comments Geeta. YaadaYaada is a very gracious person.

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  51. Thanks for your comments Anonymous. Me and my readers are jokers? Sure, we are. I write a post about people like you and my readers comment on that because you are a joke all by yourself. Honestly? You and your ilk could not recognize “honest” if it knocks on your door.

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  52. Way to go SG! Very disappointed to hear that a Booker nominee behaves in such a way. Hope she discovers what its like to be on the receiving end of such behaviour one day. Keep up the good work!

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  53. Thanks for your comments Peerless Bluff. And, long time no see. What happened?

    I don't think she will be at the receiving end. If by chance she wins the Booker Award, the Booker Prize Foundation will not change the "ground rules" after the winner is announced. They are honest.

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