VACATION – one of my favorite words in any language.
We enjoy going on vacation quite a bit. In fact, we try to make it happen more than once every year. We do however make it a point to go on vacation by ourselves only.
Our friends used to ask us to go on vacation with them or they wanted to come along with us. We always politely refused their requests. They got the message and now they don’t even bring up the subject of travelling with us.
I know there are many advantages to going on vacation with friends. It’ll be a lot of fun with more people than just the two of us. I believe the phrase is – “The more the merrier” right? Yeah well, we still prefer to go by ourselves.
Here is my reasoning:
When we travel, we do not adhere to a pre-planned schedule while on vacation. Not every hour of every day is planned out and we don’t follow a strict schedule. If we plan to leave the hotel at 8am to start our fun filled day, but we decided that morning that we are not in the mood to leave so early, then we will wait and relax in the hotel until we are ready to leave (whatever time that may be). Can’t do that if you’re travelling in a group.
When travelling somewhere people have different interests in what they want to see and experience and for how long. If we go someplace and we absolutely love it there, then we will spend extra time there. On the flip side, if we don’t like where we’re at then we will cut the trip short. Again, this may not be doable when travelling as a group.
Another issue could be the hotel and where to stay at while on vacation. When we travel by ourselves, we can stay at any hotel that we like and not wait for the approval of our accompanying friends. We may not like the hotel they prefer and vice versa. The same holds true for restaurants and the type of food that we want to eat while travelling. Mexican or Italian or Chinese – no problem for us. Hey, once in a while we might not even want to go out for dinner. Just order some room service and have an extra glass of merlot.
The bottom line is that when you travel with a lot of people you lose some flexibility. That is a key ingredient for us while on vacation…because after all it is a VACATION right? And you are planning on having a good time. Without flexibility our vacation becomes less fun.
Don’t even get me started on the whole privacy thing when travelling with others. Is it really a good time when you have no privacy while on vacation? Now instead of just the two of you travelling, you have 4 other couples in tow with you. Again, I’m sure this works for some people (and that is totally fine)…but we do place a premium on that.
Is it really a good time when you have 10 people trying to figure out what to do for dinner every night? Of course there are always leaders and followers and stand firm decision makers…but at the end of the trip there will be 9 complainers. Sometimes it’s already hard enough making TWO people come to an agreement on what to do, where to go, what to see, and where to eat. Now when you add other people (albeit close friends) to the mix – forgetabout it! It’s a recipe for disaster. Many people hanging out together for waaayyy too long will surely put a strain on your relationship.
Hmmm, I do have some “friends” that I don’t want to be friendly with anymore. Maybe I will go on vacation with them so that I never have to see them again.